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Falling Up

AndrewBlog1 commentDecember 21, 2010

Yes, I just fell down on the ice in front of the post office and I mean I FELL –  feet out from under me, landed on my back, made an “ugh” sound as I hit kind of fall down.

Trying to get back up was the trick, as people were so busy trying to act like they didn’t notice my humiliation, nobody approached me. I was like a turtle on, spinning around reaching for dry ground to get some leverage.

I laughed all by myself, and then walked in to face the stone-like faces of post office employees who were probably figuring a lawsuit would be next. No lawsuit, just a small revelation.

As I re-lived the moment, I thought about how many times I fell as a kid. I mean slamming, hard falls on my bicycle (one resulted in a concussion), on my roller-skates, on my tricycle. Yes, I remember losing control of my tricycle and plowing it into my grouchy neighbor’s rose bushes. That incident was literally a thorn in my side.

But I also remember that I fell because I was taking risks — trying that new gymnastics move, learning to lean in for fast turns on my bike, trying to jump a sidewalk crack on my roller skates, and letting go of the pedals of my tricycle while going down hill. In each incident, the fall brought me one step closer to mastering a new skill.

As I work with organizations involved in transitional change, I have realized that many teams aren’t succeeding because they haven’t been given the chance to fall. They have learned that even the smallest failure is met with rolled eyes and retribution from a risk-adverse manager.

If more people were allowed to fall, change would be imminently more successful. I’m not talking about Enron-sized failures; that failure was actually the result of people not admitting they had fallen. I’m talking about people taking chances to do more than they originally thought they could do.

As a leader of change, you have to let people know that every new venture will be filled with falling before you stand beside your success. And, if anyone claims to have changed without failure – they haven’t really changed anything. Failure is proof that something new has been tried, and it is one road sign leading to the right end-result. I like to think of it as “falling up.”

The next time you are leading people through change,  do the following:

  • Have conversations for possibilities, where nobody is allowed to say “we tried this in the past and it didn’t work.”
  • Have every participant in a meeting recount a time when they fell as a child, and what the result was ultimately. Did they finally learn to ride that bike? Skate standing up? Did they make it?
  • Celebrate when somebody falls. Remember how grandparents and parents clap and smile when a toddler falls down so they’ll keep trying? We need to do the same thing with employees.

See, one fall at the post office and I have remembered some important lessons. I have practiced the art of “falling up.” Now if only my back could feel as good as my soul :).

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John Halderman
December 23, 2010 5:59 pm

It’s great when something triggers us into a realization. Perhaps if you fell more often like that you would remember more of what you’ve forgotten!
I agree with you on opening up the acceptability of failing. So many people are programmed to fear it because of pier pressure and how they think they may look to superiors. I say, if you have a boss who does not recognize stumbles as your making a positive effort, find a new boss!
And using a fall as an opportunity for the person as well as others on the team to analyze and learn from it could be beneficial and help take the negativity off of it.
John

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