I will never forget the night a young girl who was thirteen and already a prostitute stayed in our home. My parents were ministers, and this young girl had started wandering into our church doors.
Mom and dad invited her to come to our house on Friday nights to avoid the streets. The first night she came, she sat at our kitchen table for dinner. We told stories and laughed, and she observed us as if we were made of gold.
That night mom made her a make-shift bed on the floor, and the young girl had only one request. She looked at my mom with big, blue eyes and asked quietly “Could you please tuck me in and kiss me good night?”
She was barely thirteen years-old and lived in the home of a drug addict parent that only wanted the money she could make on the streets. And her one wish was to be tucked in at night.
We worked with her for months, trying to help her change her life. Eventually, she got reabsorbed into the dark places of her life and we lost touch. I hope she made it out eventually. I hope she found someone who cared enough about her to kiss her goodnight and tuck her in.
Change is hard, and moving away from what you know is frightening– even when your circumstances are dire. Whatever circumstances you live with are the circumstances you have come to believe are inevitable. You don’t believe that you can create a new reality. You’ve always had this job, you’ve never worked in that field, you don’t believe you have what it takes to work for yourself.
Here’s the big secret: You can do more than you ever thought possible, you just have to be willing to make the journey. Whether at work or at home, you have to tell yourself a new story about who you are, the strength that you have, and the direction you want to go. Set your goals, and don’t let anybody tell you that “you can’t.”
When people try to keep you boxed in, it’s because that’s how you best serve their reality. Their desire to keep you the same has nothing to do with your life, your dreams, your desires.
So, today, become your own change warrior. Write down the change you want to make, and be ready for those who will try to block the change. Be ready for big periods of doubt and fear. But, whatever you do, don’t stop moving forward.
Your change effort is going to create a new reality for you, and you are worthy of that positive change.
Everybody deserves to be tucked in at the end of the day.