I have a humor blog that I write for baby boomer women called DameNation. My articles are intended to lighten women’s lives through laughter. Thanks to this blog, I’ve become a regular contributor to Huffington Post, where it seems my humor is pissing some people off.
In a recent post I discussed how talented women are portrayed in the media, with a focus on body parts rather than talent. This generated over 320 comments — many of them angry.
In another post, I talked about how I was finally happy with my body, no matter how imperfect it might be. You’d think that would be a pretty safe topic, but you would be wrong.
While supported by a majority of the readers, I got SLAMMED by a significant number of others. I am talking piledriver, verbal throw downs. One woman was absolutely disgusted with the fact that I feel good about my body. I’m wondering if it was my ex-diet counselor.
Here are her exact words:
Wow, seriously? I am 58, and I do not have rolls of fat around my mid-section. And I don’t resort to brownies when I’m stressed, I just hit the gym harder. It’s fun being sexy. Yes, more fun than sitting in a movie eating popcorn. And loss of Estrogen is NOT what causes that extra weight. It’s all the sugar and grains you’re eating, that now, because of loss of Progesterone makes you store excess fat around your middle. The problem is, you have too MUCH Estrogen in relation to your other hormones. At least get the FACTS straight, if you’re going to post excuses about feeling old and getting fat. And, I’m not fooled; you’re not really happy with that body, you just think you have no choice, so you may as well accept it. That’s noble, but what a shame! Suzanne Somers and I would like you to know that you DO have a choice.
I was really blown away when Suzanne Somers got thrown into the mix. What did I ever do to Chrissy?
When Attacks Get Personal
Let me make one thing clear – I support a free press and freedom of speech. I have no issues with people having their own opinions and voicing them.
What is so surprising about the comments is how quickly they morph into personal attacks.
One respondent accused me of yellow journalism. Since the piece’s title included the word “nipple,” I could see why he might go this direction. But then he went into warp speed, and told me that I was “a shallow thinker without the depth of a spit.” I told him that I’d look up how deep a spit was before I determined how offended I would be.
At its best, an honest critique can surface certain issues, generated discussion and provide possibilities for improvement.
At its worst, an angry critique can instigate heated, thoughtless attacks with one result – more anger.
Alice Roosevelt Longworth said she loved angry discussions because it meant people were passionate.
Is that what we are? Or is it a faux passion used to get attention?
My Question is . . .
Does the angry discourse that seems to prevail in current media actually promote any kind of positive change?
I really want to know your thoughts. This is a discussion worth having. And you’re allowed to express anything you believe, as long as you really believe it.
Even if you tell me I’m only as deep as a spit.