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Power Up Relationships at Work

Donna HighfillBlogNo commentsOctober 28, 2014

Everyone works at something. I don’t care if you are a volunteer or raising a family, it’s work.

I was a “stay at home mom” for a couple of years and wanted to smack every person who said, “Wow, I wish I could just be home with my kids.” I wanted to say, “That’s right. I go to bed at midnight because I’ve been doing forty-two loads of laundry each day, and I get up at 2:00 a.m., 3:00 a.m., and 4:00 a.m. with my six-month-old daughter. Oh yeah, and as soon as I get in bed at 4:00 a.m. my two year-old son wakes up, his feet running as soon as he hits the floor. There are no awards and no adult-interaction, and I actually do NOT eat bon-bons all day, but, whatever.” 

After one year of no sleep, I was at serious risk of assaulting the next person who told me how fortunate I was to have two little blessings. In fact, I tried to give said blessings to one particularly chirpy woman at a Hills Department store. Don’t worry. I kept them both and now they support each other.

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Yes, everybody works, and within every work situation is a series of relationships that will make or break the environment. I have had jobs where the relationships were positive, and I couldn’t wait to get to work. Believe it or not, one was a waitressing job at Bennigan’s when I was in my early twenties. It was a new restaurant, and the wait staff was all hired at the same time. We covered shifts for each other, trained each other, and were proud of the place that we worked. We also got free food and alcohol, which helped tremendously.

I’ve also had the opposite experience. I had a manager who spun in the door like the Tasmanian Devil, created chaos, and then pinned the problems on everybody else.

The difference in the two experiences was definitely not the work done . . . at Bennigan’s I loaded the Hobart dishwasher and cleaned bar mats and went home with three pounds of grease in my hair. The difference was the work relationships.

So, what creates powerful work relationships?

I thought about this all night last night, after the Redskins beat the Cowboys and I was so hopped up on energy I couldn’t sleep. Here’s a short list that I’d love for you to add to:

  1. Positive relationships begin with an environment that is both supportive and performance-based. I’ve been in environments that were so supportive it felt like you worked for the easy teacher (usually the football coach) who gave everyone an “A” whether deserved or not. This environment builds a company of low to mediocre performers who drain the system with their absences and demotivate top performers who are told to slow down. Performance-based environments, when led effectively, support employees as they challenge them to improve their skills. Always strive to be better, and work to help others grow.
  2. Powered-up relationships require courageous communication. That means if you are in conflict with someone, you are encouraged to go to that person rather than tattle to the leader. Yes, I said tattle. Some leaders groove on sweeping in as the Knight on the White Horse and encourage staff to come to them with problems. This creates a parental environment in which people stop communicating with each other. Keep conversations open with co-workers. Don’t rely on managers to fix your relationship problems.
  3. Positive work relationships require respect for what others in the company do each day. If you don’t respect someone’s work, they know it. If you are frustrated with a group in your company, you probably don’t know enough about what they do. Spend some time in the area. Experience the value they create, while learning about their challenges. This knowledge will build mutual respect and a powered up relationship faster than any other tip I can give you. Before you judge what someone does, spend a day in their shoes.

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We all want to work at the ideal company, but there is no such thing. We can, however, work to build powerful relationships wherever we go.

Those are my thoughts. What else, in your opinion, helps build powerful relationships at work?

Tags: Change, change leadership, donna highfill, motivation, Stories

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