The political season is upon us, which turns many friends and family members into WWE opponents. It seems that civil discourse is out of the question. Apparently, Morton Downey Jr. has become our conversational role-model.
So, what happens if our political views differ from those of our children?
This question came from one of my readers, and I think it’s worthy of consideration.
How to handle political differences within the family . . .
I remember the day my brother-in-law and I got into a political battle. The conversation started with civility, but soon turned into a screaming match. My sister left in tears, and our family visit was marred. It happens.
Therefore, I suggest the following:
Or, you could use bribery. . .
Unfortunately, this is my most often-used source of influence. My kids, nieces and nephews all know that I like to throw money at things. If you will stop screaming about politics, I will give you $20.00. This approach is a horrible parenting technique, but it works.
I wish all of us would realize that considering another person’s perspective exercises the brain. We need to be role-models of civil discourse, celebrating the fact that our children are forming their own opinions.
Before getting into a political discussion with my kids, I would quote F. Scott Fitzgerald —
“The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.”
Then I would throw down the gauntlet of – Do you have a first-rate intelligence?
Because the only thing better than monetary bribery is intellectual bribery.
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Great advice, Donna. We tend to seek out those who share our same opinion and end up speaking into our own “echo chamber” — how wonderful to actually be able to listen to an opposite view that we may hold, even hold passionately, and truly understand another person’s perspective. Listening does not mean “agreeing.” It is rare to find someone who will actually listen to a position that is opposite their own.. Blessings!! Mark
Mark – beautifully said!! I wish I had your quotes before writing the piece. We’ve always had good discussions, even with our different perspectives!!
Good guidance. I know certain people politics can not be discussed and the saying we agree to disagree doesn’t sit well either, so I usually say when the topic of politics arises with my blood pressure and patience, “read any good books?”
Excellent topic switch, Haralee!
I love the Fitzgerald quote, Donna. My family are all on the same page politically, but when my husband and I
are with couples who we know don’t think as we do, we value them for their friendship and do our best to
steer clear of problematic discussion. What is amazing is when people can share some of both sides and then the discussion can get really interesting. Great post.
Beth – debating with friends in a way that promotes intellectual growth on both sides is a delight! Thanks so much for your comment and perspective.