Good points, Donna. But I’m not paying for the gas!
If you’ve ever read anything written by a psychoanalyst named Karen Horneye, she talks about “moving toward” and “moving away” from goals and stressors, respectively. As you point out, there is a difference between getting to do something and having to do it. Seems to me that the comfort zone you refer to in your video applies mainly to the latter. Reluctance (resistance) is a serious hassle when encountering the need to make a life change. I find that it helps to remember thatv there are always options, and that no specific job is the only one available to a person seeking a new career path.
Rob: How did know I was hoping for gas money? 🙂 You are hilarious . . . I agree that there is a huge difference between getting to do something and having to do it. Most of my clients are in a “have to do” situation, and they struggle. I usually ask, “Have you ever successfully stopped change?” Most haven’t, so then we talk about how to move forward.
Glad you liked the video, and THANK YOU for your comments!! I’ll get myself updated on your blog today – always great reading.
Learn from the past, don’t live in the past. Great message delivered in a manner that should resonate with all groups. Hope you enjoy the gift of this day,
Myles
Donna,
Lesson 2 on change caused some thinking and reflecting which as you indicated are often the cause of change failure. Thinking too much may cause reflection on re-evaluating perception about the safety and security of the past overshadowing the real need for the change, or providing an excuse for not changing. This contemplation brought to mind a little statue of Yoda kept on my desk to remind me of his comment to Luke Skywalker directing him to levitate his sunken star fighter out of the swamp. Luke said “I’ll try!” Yoda responded, “Try? Either Do, or Do Not!” (It’s what I remember – the message is accurate).
Trying involves thinking – either conscious or subconscious. In this process we tend to weigh numerous factors as to why we should, or should not proceed as well as why me may, or may not succeed. These should be considered before change action is decided and after that is determined – Just Do!
Myles: Thank you for your incredible thoughts. You’re so right – we over analyze the change, and I really agree that once change is presented we have to follow our gut. When the brain gets involved it brings the ego with it, and the ego brings fear. Excellent points – I will now call you Myles Yoda Gaythwaite :).
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Good points, Donna. But I’m not paying for the gas!
If you’ve ever read anything written by a psychoanalyst named Karen Horneye, she talks about “moving toward” and “moving away” from goals and stressors, respectively. As you point out, there is a difference between getting to do something and having to do it. Seems to me that the comfort zone you refer to in your video applies mainly to the latter. Reluctance (resistance) is a serious hassle when encountering the need to make a life change. I find that it helps to remember thatv there are always options, and that no specific job is the only one available to a person seeking a new career path.
Good video. I like it.
Rob: How did know I was hoping for gas money? 🙂 You are hilarious . . . I agree that there is a huge difference between getting to do something and having to do it. Most of my clients are in a “have to do” situation, and they struggle. I usually ask, “Have you ever successfully stopped change?” Most haven’t, so then we talk about how to move forward.
Glad you liked the video, and THANK YOU for your comments!! I’ll get myself updated on your blog today – always great reading.
Donna
Learn from the past, don’t live in the past. Great message delivered in a manner that should resonate with all groups. Hope you enjoy the gift of this day,
Myles
Donna,
Lesson 2 on change caused some thinking and reflecting which as you indicated are often the cause of change failure. Thinking too much may cause reflection on re-evaluating perception about the safety and security of the past overshadowing the real need for the change, or providing an excuse for not changing. This contemplation brought to mind a little statue of Yoda kept on my desk to remind me of his comment to Luke Skywalker directing him to levitate his sunken star fighter out of the swamp. Luke said “I’ll try!” Yoda responded, “Try? Either Do, or Do Not!” (It’s what I remember – the message is accurate).
Trying involves thinking – either conscious or subconscious. In this process we tend to weigh numerous factors as to why we should, or should not proceed as well as why me may, or may not succeed. These should be considered before change action is decided and after that is determined – Just Do!
Myles
Myles: Thank you for your incredible thoughts. You’re so right – we over analyze the change, and I really agree that once change is presented we have to follow our gut. When the brain gets involved it brings the ego with it, and the ego brings fear. Excellent points – I will now call you Myles Yoda Gaythwaite :).