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If I Wear a Lime Green Hat . . .

AndrewBlogNo commentsJanuary 12, 2011

There’s a great paradox in the nature of people. Yes, we want to be part of a pack. We want to belong. Yet we don’t want to blend in. To seem the same as everyone else. We don’t want to be a number.

I remember all of the times in my life where I screamed “pay attention to ME.” Being a middle child, I had to fight for my identity. My oldest sister got to be in charge (although she would tell you that wasn’t a true benefit), my youngest brother seemed to get away with everything.

To make sure the world knew who I was, I put some stakes in the ground along the way. Some of those included:

  • Wearing a lime green knit cap almost every day, despite the fact that we lived in California. It was a neon color that became dirty and ragged, but everyone talked about how they could see me coming a mile away. In retrospect, I liked the fact that it gave me distinction Plus my mom hated it. That made it very cool.
  • My first car. While all of my friends bought American-made sedans that were blue or white, I opted for a Datsun 310 Hatchback that was metallic brown. Nobody understood why a female would get a brown car or a 4-speed manual transmission. That’s why I got it.
  • M first job. While most Wake Forest graduates went on to Law School, I became a bartender at a Bennigans. I don’t really have a good reason for that, other than it wasn’t what anybody expected me to do (especially me).

In a white-washed world of standard guidelines, I think a lot of employees do the same thing.

Maybe they tell jokes in meetings, or wear interesting (and I mean sometimes lewd) outfits, or show up late every day, strutting in with an attitude.

Having been lost in the world of gray cubicles, they might just figure that negative attention is better than no attention at all.

So the next time you are delivering blanket praise to a team of employees, remember that they also want you to see each individual face in that crowd. Find ways to do that. Then maybe they’re stop wearing that lime green hat to work.

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