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At Least I’m Failing Forward!

AndrewBlog3 commentsJuly 9, 2012

The past few years of change have not been the exciting experience motivational speakers promised me. I started with enthusiasm, and spent tens of thousands of dollars on a website that looked beautiful but, in retrospect, would have resulted in my investing time writing manuals had it succeeded. I had written training manuals for years; I have seven filing cabinets full of them. What I didn’t ask myself was, Do you really want to write training manuals for the rest of your life? Well, I didn’t. Flush.

My next move involved jumping back into the cocoon of Corporate America. I had spent more than twenty years in a corporate environment, and I could really put together a killer Powerpoint deck.  I thought I missed gathering in small conference rooms several times a day. Then I spent a few months in Meeting Room B listening to disembodied voices, and I realized that I didn’t miss it as much as I thought.

What I missed was the security blanket of a steady paycheck and the lure of vacation days. In twelve years of owning my business, I have not had one “paid-for” vacation day. Every vacation day that I took (a total of six weeks in twelve years) I either multi-tasked or panicked over the lost income.

So, I ventured out with two new websites. One has worked extremely well (women readers check out DameNation!) while the other bored me so I can only assume it was boring everybody else.

Oh yeah, I also wrote a book called Real People, Real Change: Stories of a Change Warrior in the Business World  that has received rave reviews from readers but, for some reason, I have failed to promote aggressively.

Real, gut-wrenching change is not easy.  I’m not going to lie. But when it is time to change it’s like you simply can’t do anything else. Doors close in your face that used to swing open.

I’ve had days where the yearning to lie on my couch, eat Pringles and watch a House Hunters marathon was almost insurmountable.

But I’ve realized that my biggest obstacle to  change is an unwillingness to fail. Being an English Major, I dreaded the red pen of life, slashing through my dreams. I didn’t realize that life was simply editing and improving my dream.

I’ve learned through my failures. Now I revisit the weak spot of my dream, and I either strengthen it or let it die a peaceful death.

I have failed forward.

My new direction involves coaching and encouraging others through change, while making them laugh through my writing and speaking. If that’s all I do in this life, then it’s enough for me.

If you’re going through major change, take it one day at a time. One step at a time. Get centered by being quiet for ten minutes a day. Celebrate your failures, tweak your plans, and keep going.

You’re not failing.

You’re perfecting the path to your destiny.

 

Tags: Change, change leadership, donna highfill, featured, highfill performance group, Real People Real Change

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3 comments. Leave new

Dag Nybo
July 21, 2012 7:19 am

Wonderful piece. I saw myself in much of what you wrote…when I moved into coaching from a paid management position, I felt I would adapt more quicklyy than I have. Discomfort with change and adapting to a new line of work…fail forward 🙂

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Donna Highfill
July 25, 2012 12:44 pm

Thanks for your response, Dag. Moving from a paid position into a consulting role is certainly a big jump. Many thing the biggest pressure is financial, but often it’s the “loss of connection” with others in team environments. Stick with it until you find your “zone.” You’re showing tremendous courage. Fail forward!

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3 Olympic-Worthy Change Messages | Highfill Performance Group
August 3, 2012 10:34 am

[…] Each one of these fears stops leaders and individual contributors from moving forward with change every day. Our first fear is falling. Toddlers are the only human beings on earth who relish the fall, because they don’t know yet that it’s a problem, and they have a huge support system created by adults who are cheering and applauding every step. The question is: When do we become so afraid of falling? Why can’t we see it as falling forward? […]

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