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Let’s Tell Bigger Stories

Donna HighfillBlog12 commentsFebruary 5, 2015

Recently, my niece told me that she and her brother loved it when I used to visit because I would always make up a bedtime story just for them. Since I couldn’t cook, and I was missing other maternal instincts, it was the best I could offer.

My sister would call me in after supper and baths, and I would sit on the bed with two very clean children in pajamas. After smelling their hair (because nothing smells better than a small child after a bath), I would make up a story. I would try to include action, and fear, and joy, and redemption. They would each be characters, and would help with the plot-line twists and turns. We told of wild creatures and exciting adventures.

We told big stories.

Our stories are shrinking . . . 

As I’ve gotten older, it seems like adult stories (regular stories, not adult-store stories) have replaced “Once upon a time” with –

  • I heard that . . .
  • I’m afraid that . . .
  • Did you know . . .

And the news following is usually negative, something like –

  • Bob is being fired
  • The NFL is corrupt
  • This is going to be the worst winter in the history of the world

Can you imagine any child paying attention to a story that starts with “I once heard that we’re running out of food and California is going to drop into the ocean in five years?” Most two-year olds would look at us like, “Hey, this is the worst story ever!”

If we acknowledge our super powers, and I think we should, then fear stories are like Kryptonite, draining the energy of the person into whose ear we whisper the words.

Small stories result in small solutions and small lives.

Example: A story about a big little girl . . . .

Instead of telling the story of starvation, we could tell our children the story of a young girl who found a solution. Perhaps it would sound something like this:

“Once upon a time, there was a little girl who believed she had super powers.

One day, while walking in the city, she noticed a thin man in tattered clothes leaning against a wall. She stopped and asked the man if he was hungry. 

‘Yes I am,’ he said.

“Then I will feed you,” she said.

He smiled sadly and said, ‘That would be nice, but you’re only a child. Hunger is everywhere, and it is a story that will have a bad ending.’

‘I’m bigger than hunger,’ she said, “and I will write a new story.’

The little girl did some research, and discovered that hunger was everywhere. So, she found people in other countries who would help her feed people, and she found people in every state to do the same.

Over time, she and her partners planted food, taught others to grow vegetables, and located restaurant owners who were willing to funnel leftovers to those who needed it most.  She and her partners taught the world to share. 

Many years after their first encounter, the man she met on the street came to see her.

“You did it,” he said with a head full of gray hair, a smile and a full stomach.

“We did it,” she says.

“How?” he asks.

She looked him in the eye and said, “I gathered all of the people on earth who were bigger than hunger, and we wrote a new ending.”

Moral: Let’s tell bigger stories.

 

 

 

Tags: Change, donna highfill, inspiration, motivation, power up, Stories

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12 comments. Leave new

Neil Karn
February 5, 2015 3:44 pm

We are restrained or uplifted by the stories we tell ourselves. Let’s, indeed, tell bigger stories. Stories about compassion, quiet courage and caring!

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Donna Highfill
February 5, 2015 3:59 pm

Neil – you write those stories every day. I love you. (For those who are curious, Neil is my husband 🙂 I don’t just tell random men that I love them.)

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John Paul
February 5, 2015 4:38 pm

Donna great post and the blog looks great.. like the opt in box designs 🙂

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Donna Highfill
February 5, 2015 8:33 pm

Thanks John – and thanks for your help. Your suggestions were perfect!

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Patty Chang Anker
February 5, 2015 11:06 pm

Well put, Donna -I’ve always loved reading stories about other people doing exciting, meaningful things. For most of my life I assumed they were made from different DNA than me. But then I realized the difference was that they didn’t let their fear stop them – and if I were to push through mine my life would become much bigger. It turns out every time we push through fear and risk something it’s surprising and dramatic and the makings of a great story. We can all be active heroines instead of armchair adventurers! TEDx “Warning: Leaving Comfort Zone. Things Could Get Exciting” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7h7ondzFNA

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Donna Highfill
February 5, 2015 11:47 pm

Patty: Thank you so much for the comment – and you’re right, leaving the comfort zone and pushing forward becomes a frightening, wonderful adventure! Tomorrow, when I leave the country where my internet is shaky, I will check out the youtube video. Thank you!

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Janie Emaus
February 5, 2015 11:09 pm

I agree! Bigger stories, for sure. I always tell my grandkids stories with them as the main characters, going on all sorts of wild adventures.

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Donna Highfill
February 5, 2015 11:48 pm

Janie: I’d love to hear those stories!!

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Lisa Weinstein
February 6, 2015 12:56 am

Donna, that is so beautiful! One thing I miss about my daughter growing older is the stories. I told them constantly and she was such a willing, captivating audience!!! But now my step-daughter is pregnant so I’ll have to start thinking of more stories to tell!

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Donna Highfill
February 6, 2015 2:16 pm

Lisa – Thank you for the comment, and I bet your grandmother stories will be magnificent!

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Rena McDaniel
February 18, 2015 1:05 am

What a beautiful idea. I recently was blessed with twin grandchildren (they are 3 months now) and I cannot wait to be able to sit and tell them stories like this!

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Donna Highfill
February 18, 2015 3:41 pm

Thank you for the comment, Rena. And what wonderful twin stories you could tell! That alone could be a book series!!

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